One time, as a joke, I asked a guy if he had any roofies.
Anyone who’s ever thumbed through Tinder or cruised Ok Cupid long enough has seen people sharing their Myers-Briggs personality types. Myers-Briggs is one of the most popular pop psych phenomenons in history, with 2.5 million people taking a Myers-Briggs test each year and the majority of Fortune 100 corporations using it to inform their leadership structures.
You probably recognize Myers-Briggs by its signature, four-letter combinations. And now it’s caught on with online daters, who advertise their personality type in the hopes of attracting someone with a complementary four-letter code.
It is down to the discretion of Balance Magazine and Nana Wereko-Brobby to pick the winners and match the couples.I’d be nervous enough about choosing the right outfit and making sure the person sitting across from me isn’t a murderer, let alone also having to wonder if they’re going to say that the best thing about me is my “quirky sense of style” in a national newspaper. Alyssa, who seems utterly lovely and completely normal, did it with The Undateables in Time Out New York. It was so colossally un-fine that Twitter has been laughing about it for the past 24 hours, and I am writing about it because it’s the only way I can process the horror that is the man she was paired up with. Apparently, Billy is single because “He has a busy schedule, and it takes more than just a beautiful woman to turn his head.” I wondered if perhaps Billy’s neck and spine are made out of reinforced adamantium and there aren’t many women out there with the arm strength to help him twist his neck to look out of the window occasionally, but no, that’s not the case.I imagine she shared my worries but brushed them aside, signing up with gay abandon and thinking “It’ll be fine! It’s actually quite the opposite; judging by his behaviour on this date, he’s rather spineless. Apparently as soon as Alyssa, walked in the room, he “knew she wasn’t the girl for me” as “she didn’t have the goods”.As professional relationship coaches, we meet many “serial first daters” (our nickname)—they are people who have a hard time moving dating relationships forward to something more serious. The reason this question is so important as we delve deeper is because it takes more than a great career, pretty face and round bottom to maintain a long term, committed relationship, and so often, we’re more focused on what HE needs to be rather than taking a moment to uncover what we’re bringing to the table that he can’t get anywhere else. One of the main things that may be missing from your dating equation is knowing your USP (unique selling proposition), meaning what are those wonderful characteristics you’ve been blessed with that will keep his interest when the initial butterflies and goosebumps subside?